Officers from the Royal Cayman Islands Police Service, (RCIPS) Family Support Unit are offering advice to parents with regard to parenting and coping with the challenges that raising children can bring.

“Parenting can at times be a real struggle for some people and we want to let people know that assistance and advice is available,” said Detective Sergeant Doris Morris, of the Family Support Unit.

“Parents should be vigilant with their child’s activities when they are away from home and we strongly urge all parents or guardians to leave the child in the care/supervision of a responsible adult at all times.

“Parents should also remember that it is their responsibility to monitor their child’s accessibility to Internet and cell phones.”

While there are no quick fixes DS Morris said that there are things parents can do to manage their children’s behaviour including tell the child clearly what the good behaviour is you want to see. She said to only attempt to deal with one or two problem behaviours at a time and don’t expect miracles; expect to move forward in small steps. It is important too that parents notice any good behaviour, even the small stuff and to choose small rewards and give rewards each day, normally immediately following good behaviour.

DS Morris advises parents to have their children help choose the rewards, which she said should only be given after the desired behaviour has been achieved and explained why they have been given. It is good to let children know that parents have confidence that the kids will behave well and achieve the rewards.

DS Morris noted that rewards do not have to be expensive. Parents can give children anything from crayons, paper, pencils and colouring books to a special treat in the lunch box.

Children can be treated at home and allowed to do special things like use the telephone or have friends to stay overnight or choose to watch a TV show. Parents can use it as an educational opportunity as well by having kids help them make a cake or grow seeds or a plant in the garden.

Outside treats like going to the movies or the park are great rewards too.

Praise is another important factor in guiding kids’ behaviour. DS Morris said parents should praise children when they are just being good; they don’t need to wait for perfect behaviour. Praising is not going to spoil a child and difficult children need more frequent praise. She added that children should be told very clearly why they are being praised.

DS Morris also advises varying the words used as well as being enthusiastic and giving good eye contact when praising. She said when praising a young child, give cuddles, pats and kisses and to praise children in front of adults and other children.

DS Morris said that further advice and resources are available to parents who are experiencing a challenge with parenting.

For more information on how to get help with coping with parenthood please contact the Family Support Unit at 946-9185 and the Department of Children and Family Services at 949-0290.