Men have insecurities too.

Guys have their own fears when they first start seeing someone. Here’s a glimpse into them and advice on how to act.

He’s one of many. If he’s chasing you, he knows he’s not alone. And because men are so competitive, that thought drives him nuts. One tip: Don’t tell him you’re all his, but put his mind at ease by asking questions about his life.

You might still reject him. During those first few dates, a guy is watching like a hawk for clues that you’re not going to give him the slip. So if you want to reassure him that you’re interested enough to stick around (at least for now!), offer up small gestures, like extended eye contact or a gentle touch of his hand when you’re talking.

He doesn’t measure up...to you. Guys are being outpaced by women in college and on the job, so it’s important for a dude to prove he’s as accomplished as you are. But he’ll only boast if he likes you, so don’t squash his ego like a bug.

He’s taking it too slow. Fact is, he’s torn: He knows he should take it slow, but he doesn’t want you to think he’s a wuss either. So if you want to green-light the physical side of the relationship, encourage him...you’ll think of something.