Joachim JB Skye MS LPC

‘As we celebrate Child’s Month’

All children are born perfect, a true gift from God.  Looking at babies elicits a smile from anyone as a warm inner feeling is derived from the beauty of a child. The amount of love given to a child is reflected in them when they become adults. Unconditional love is the key ingredient in raising healthy children. Responding with anger to a child’s behavior only instills fear and mistrust. Understanding and rewarding good behavior are the building blocks to successful adulthood even though children’s mis-behaviour sometimes makes parents angry and studies have shown that anger is not helpful in raising children. Talking to your children and explaining the correct behaviours and then rewarding those behaviours will get parents much farther in fostering a better relationship with their children than lashing out in anger and frustration. Patience is a virtue when it comes to dealing with children.

Looking back on one’s own childhood and remembering what made you feel good and what made you feel bad can be good guidelines in how to approach your relationship with your own children. Remember childhood is a fragile experience. Children are learning all the time by what they are told, shown, and experiencing. The childhood years are precious and should be filled with love and kindness not anger and hate.

Childhood is also very important in shaping adulthood; we want our children to have good memories of their younger years which are filled with joy, happiness and love, lots of love. One should always remember that healthy, happy adulthood is dependent upon healthy, happy childhood and discovering and nurturing a child’s special talent will lead them to gratifying successful adulthood.

Yes, it is true that children are a gift from God and should be treated as such. Every parent has the unique opportunity to raise a gift from God and what a truly beautiful responsibility this is. Cherish each day that you are raising a child while treating them with dignity and respect. You will get out of children what you put into them. Make childhood a special love filled journey and your children will be grateful for the rest of their lives.

May the truth set you free.

Joachim JB Skye MS LPC
Brac Haven Counselling Center
948-2354